By: admin / December 18, 2019
Family drama is such an unavoidable trouble which can cause serious stress. You might love your family very much, but always being ready for the same intrusive questions from your sister should have become a routine by now. Or being personally attacked by your uncle’s continuous political harassment. Whatever the drama, there are some prime moves to take to decrease the tension of handling these situations.
It can be said for sure that you know these by heart – a particular sequence that gets repeated each time, comprising of hurting dialogues, unsympathetic family-friends, or physical unease. But think deep and be even more particular. The more you can foresee what is going to come, the less you will get hurt. For every situation, plan and rehearse your answer. It might be being patient for a bit, smiling or just changing the topic in response to an attacking comment, or maybe a deep breath and chanting a mantra in your mind.
Be prepared to start over again:
Many a times, holiday drama is at its peak because it holds the baggage of ages of rival personalities, disagreements, and brawls. You and your sibling might still be acting out your years of disagreement over Legos decades later. Or you might still cringe from all the time when your parents used to body-shame you. Usually you either don’t see it or you don’t take an attempt to change it. Try to take each conversation as it comes, on its own, like a stranger, neutral audience—without giving it the authority to make you feel worse by connecting the past stories to it. Impossible to do it? Make yourself an actor and challenge yourself to keep detached.
Build your own space beforehand:
Simply as important as preparing your exact replies to different situations is preloading your stress-relief revise card, by preparing for ways that you'll give yourself a breather during your trip (or even in your own house if you are the host). Often, just knowing that you are going to jog by yourself at a certain point, call a bosom friend to review and have a laugh, or give yourself 30 minutes with a novella, your Play Station, or a game of UNO with your nephews is enough to get rid of stress. And the prediction of that burst—"I will let out what was uttered right now when I am outside on my jogging"—can clear your head to let go in the heat.